June 2014

Ready to Relax...

School's out and summer is here.  I'm ready to relax - how about you?

What I realize, though, is that I really didn't have to wait until summer.  I could have learned to relax all along.

We tend to carry so much tension in our bodies - running our lives by the clock, stressing about deadlines or bills, rushing to the next appointment, working longer hours at work or on homework.  Is it all really worth it?

Well, probably not. In Ethan Winning's editorial on overtime and work, he shares a study he conducted in the early 90's on the effects of work hours and productivity.  He found that "mistakes and errors rose by about 10% after an eight hour day, and 28% after a 10 hour day."  It was also revealed that "productivity decreased by half after the eighth hour of work."

So the saying holds true:  less is sometimes more.  More productive in this case.

And all that tension and stress we create by worrying, pushing ourselves, and perceiving ourselves as always behind, always needing to do more, give more, be more, isn't helping the problem, either. 

Life coach Marla Tabaka asserts that you could regain as much as 40% of your time by decreasing your stressful multi-tasking habits.  That's right - stop trying to finish that project while talking on the phone, shoveling lunch into your mouth, and sending an email (as you toss in another load of laundry).  You're actually losing time, energy, and peace of mind, gaining nothing.

I was stopped dead in my tracks several months ago when I read one of Amma's quotes (one of my spiritual teachers) on last year's calendar:  "Children, learn to be relaxed in all circumstances.  Whatever you do and wherever you are, relax and you will see how powerful it is... Once you learn this art, everything happens spontaneously and effortlessly."

Wow.  Now that was a totally different approach to things than my bite-my-lip-and-wrinkle-my-forehead way of going about a busy schedule. 

I recalled to mind so many situations I had seen Amma in over the 16 years I've followed her:  hugging people for 16 hours or more, leading rescue and clean up efforts after the big tsunami hit south India, rebuilding their large hall at the ashram in Amritapuri, giving spiritual talks.  I have never, ever, seen her look tense, stressed out, or rushed.  Yet she is far, far, far more productive than I am likely ever going to be.

So I've been letting go.  There's nothing in this moment that I need to get tense about.  OK, so I have a deadline - I can still relax while I work towards it.  Yes, dinner needs to get on the table and my daughter wants my attention.  When I relax and become fully present, I know the quality of my time with my family deepens, the dinner turns out better, my writing flows much more elegantly, and my classes have a greater impact. 

I'm more my True Self when I relax, and I feel that Divine power flow through me.  I'm more productive - but I'm also a lot happier.  Isn't that what we really want in life?

I'll bet you are ready to relax, and be more of your True Self, too!  So I am offering something new to support you in doing just that.  Something that will inspire you, and connect you to the Divine and that deep inner peace.  A monthly conference call - The Spiritual Cafe'!  Let your heart open, let go, and let in Spirit.  Starting this month on June 27th - details below or on my website.

This month's blog also addresses relaxation through the state of Tranquility - check it out below.

And lastly - Yoga Quest returns this fall!   In both Fremont and Mountain View - see details below.

You don't have to wait until vacation or school is out to relax.  Start right now to cultivate that inner state of relaxation by letting go, being present, and trusting the process.  Deep breath in... deep breath out.




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  • Blog: Tranquility by Rev. Connie L. Habash
  • Awakening Self Radio Show Schedule
  • Spiritual Quotes


NEW! The Spiritual Cafe'

Friday, June 27th, 10:30-11:30am Pacific

Stop in for some tranquili-tea!

An hour-long monthly conference call to awaken your Divine Self.

  • Open your heart
  • Be inspired
  • Feel connected to something Greater
  • Cultivate inner peace

The Spiritual Café is a safe, loving, nurturing space to grow in your spiritual life.  Share your blessings, challenges, and insights.  Ask questions.  Receive and give support in a like-minded spiritual community.  I’ll provide inspiration, spiritual guidance, and meditation.

Offered by your heart-felt donation.

Join me for an hour of inspiration and transformation – more information here!

4th Friday of every month

1st call:  June 27th

10:30-11:30am Pacific time / 1:30pm Eastern / 5:30pm GMT / 3:30am Sydney

Please RSVP to Connie@AwakeningSelf.com, and find out how to call in on my website



Counseling via Skype

Yes, I can do Counseling and Psychotherapy with you via Skype from anywhere in California.  (and of course, I have my office in Menlo Park for those of you local to the area)

Also, I can do Spiritual Mentoring with you via Skype from anywhere in the world!

Interested?  Contact me and begin the exploration.


Yoga Quest returns!

Yoga Quest: The Inner Journey of Awakening is coming back this fall to two studios!  More focus on the spiritual and personal journey, more time for inner reflection and community discussion.

A transformative way to deeply explore Yoga philosophy in your life…

Yoga Quest is for you if you…

  • Relish the deep inner peace and insights you receive in yoga class
  • Love Yoga philosophy and want to learn more
  • See Yoga as a lifestyle and want to live it "off the mat"
  • Receive powerful inspiration during class, but wish you had written it down
  • Are committed to deepening your personal and spiritual growth

YOGA QUEST I - The Brahmaviharas: 4 Attitudes of Relationship

4 Sundays : September 7th, 14th, 21st, and 28th, 2014

Location:  Mind-Body Zone – 3335 Seldon Ct., Fremont, CA 94539


YOGA QUEST II - Panchamayakosha: the 5 Sheaths of the Self

5 Mondays : October 6th, 13th, 20th, and 27th, November 3rd 2014

Location:  Yoga is Youthfulness – 590 Castro St., Mountain View, CA 94041

Time: 9:30-11:15am

For full details about Yoga Quest, visit my website!


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Imagine sitting by the shore of a pond. There is a gentle breeze, just enough to tickle you, on a balmy, warm day. You can hear birds singing, talking to one another, with spacious periods of serene silence in-between. At the near edge of the pond is a grouping of lily pads, with several pale pink blossoms opening themselves to the sun. Other than the occasional duck that paddles by, the water is smooth as glass, undisturbed and reflective.

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Awakening Self Radio Show Schedule

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All shows can be listened to from the links below, during or after the broadcast... Listen to any previous Awakening Self Radio shows on my Radio Show Page!

Last Month's Show:

Meditation and Inspiration: "Fuel for the Inner Fire"

The inner flame that keeps up determined and devoted to our spiritual practice is called Tapas in yoga philosophy.   In essence, it is self-discipline. We utilize Tapas, as that burning desire to become one with the Divine, to motivate ourselves to meditate. 

Join me to discover your inner Tapas, light the flame, and open the heart, deepening your connection to Spirit.  I'll share with you some inspiration to set the tone, then lead you through a semi-guided meditation.  Leave with a renewed sense of inspiration and motivation for your meditation practice.

See my Radio Show page for over 40 previous shows!

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Spiritual Quotes

"Don't place the mind in any kind of tension. If any part of your body is tense or feels any pain, the mind will linger on that. Relax every part of the body, and watch your thoughts with absolute awareness. Then the mind will subside by itself."

~ Mata Amritanandamayi - "Amma"


"When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere.."  ~ Francois de La Rochefoucauld


 "A crust eaten in peace is better than a banquet partaken in anxiety."  ~ Aesop (Aesop's Fables)


Rev. Connie L. Habash, MA, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Yoga & Meditation Teacher 
Interfaith Minister - Spiritual Mentorship

Menlo Park, CA