October 2014

Dealing with Those Ghosts

My friend, Atindra Gibbs, shared this passage with me recently, and I thought it was perfect inspiration for October - the month of Halloween here in the US.  This is an excellent time of year to be facing the thoughts that cause us fear.  Here, Ecknath Easwaran wakes us up to the inner ghosts that haunt us - unnecessarily!

Cemetery Ghosts

Whenever we worry about something in the past or future, we are setting up our own little haunted house and peopling it with our own special ghosts.

Many years ago I stayed at the home of a hospitable Woman who happened to
believe in ghosts. Her home had a beautiful view which took in a cemetery nearby, and though she was very fond of me, nothing I could say could convince her that ghosts from that cemetery did not pay her visits. So one day I announced casually that I was going for a walk in the cemetery.

When I returned she was wringing her hands. "Did you see any ghosts?" she asked anxiously.

"Oh, yes," I said. "Three. I told them you were too nice a woman to be living in fear all the time and they should go away and leave you alone.”

"And what did they say?" she asked.

"They said, 'We can't. As long as she believes in us, we have to stay."

She stared at me for a second, then laughed out loud. 

Those ghosts never bothered her again.

By Ecknath Easwaran, from “Words to Live By.”  Page 33 

You can deal with our own ghosts by seeing them for what they are - creations  of your  mind.  Then, focus on what is Real - on a mundane level, you can just look around you at the chair you sit on, or out the window at the sunshine or the rain.  And as you look within, beyond the thoughts, you'll find the indwelling presence of the Infinite, witnessing it all.

My own ghost that I deal with is the one that says "you have to do more to be OK."    It still returns to haunt me regularly, so I  remind myself,  "this isn't real."  And then I take things off my plate that I really don't need to do. One of those things will be The Spiritual Cafe', on Friday, October 24th at 10:30am Pacific.  Please note the new conference call number:  (605) 475-3220(605) 475-3220. It has been delightful, but this month will be my last, while I prepare for new offerings coming in the New Year - including a new spiritual community! Look for an announcement next month.

There is space for you to drop-in on Yoga Quest - the 5 "Sheaths of the Self "- on Monday mornings in October and November 3rd at Yoga is Youthfulness.   Come receive some inspiration for your practice and your life.

I continue my series of articles on the 4 "Brahmaviharas", or attitudes to maintian our inner peace that we recently explored in Yoga Quest I.  You'll find an article on the third, Mudita, below - which will give you some more keys to banishing the thoughts that  torment you.

During this spooky time of year, remember that you can deal with those ghosts – they are not who you are. Be in your inner witness, recognize them, and wish them well on their journey. Let those thoughts move on, just as you’d let a dear departed one return to the realm of Spirit. What remains is - pure and simple - the spaciousness of your awareness, filled with infinite possibility.





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Mudita - Embracing Joyfulness

by Rev. Connie L. Habash

This article is the third of a four-part series on Chapter 1, Verse 33 of the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali

We all love to feel joyful – it is one of the sweet experiences of life. Moments of joy and delight are usually our strongest, fondest memories. The birth of your first child. A wedding day. Your high school graduation.   Recovering from cancer.   Finishing your first marathon.  Or, as my daughter has recently discovered, something as simple as seeing the first sprouts appear in the vegetable garden.

People can awaken joy within us, too. It’s easy to feel joyful when we feel adorable, loved, recognized as special. We’re delighted when someone acknowledges what we’ve done well, or when we’ve been “good”. It fills the ego with pleasure and pride.

Outside of ourselves, we also delight in those who inspire us. Heroes, saints, and even a grandmother who never forgets to share some of her meal with her disabled next door neighbor. Virtuous people open our hearts and uplift us.

But, not always. Sometimes, we react to others’ selfless actions. For a variety of reasons, we may find it difficult to appreciate the good deeds others do. And that’s what this third attitude is about – how to maintain inner serenity when faced with a virtuous person.

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The Spiritual Cafe' - last one!

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Rev. Connie L. Habash, MA, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Yoga and Meditation Teacher

Interfaith Minister - Spiritual Mentorship

Menlo Park, CA