November 2014

The Long Exhale

Autumn is fully upon us.  We've dropped into the inward time of the year.  I'll bet you can feel it, just like me.

This transition through fall and into winter can be thought of as a big, long exhale.  It's the time of releasing, like the leaves falling from the trees. In fact, it's a good time for cleaning out and giving away - maybe even better than the spring.

Fall beckons us to make room, to empty out.  When we arrive in the middle of winter, we sit in our emptiness.  Why?  Because there has to be space for something new to be born.  If you didn't exhale and empty out, you wouldn't have room for the next inhalation.

And I can now take a nice exhale as I have finished my series of articles on the 4 Brahmaviharas - the Attitudes of Relationship.  The last one, Upeksha - Even-Mindedness, is below.  Here's all four, if you want to catch up on the series: 

Maitri (Friendliness), Karuna (Compassion), Mudita (Joyfulness), and Upeksha (Even-Mindedness)

After my exhale of the autumn, in January a new spiritual community, Awakening Heart, comes to Palo Alto on the 2nd Sunday of every month! Learn more below, and look for details next month. Plus, I’ll be writing a monthly column for Sibyl Magazine: For the Spirit and Soul of Woman for all of 2015!

A good mantra to practice for the fall season is "I release and let go."  With every exhalation, relax and let go of everything.  The next breath will come, trust me.  And whatever is meant to be next in your life will enter, if you make space on that exhalation.





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Awakening Heart Begins in January

A new Spiritual Community for seekers of all ages

  • A community that shares the belief in a universal, loving Presence - the Divine - which is experienced uniquely by each individual
  • A place where all spiritual paths are honored, and where we explore the universal principles which are the essence of all these paths (such as truth, non-violence, love, compassion, and service)
  • A family of spirit which is united in the desire to awaken in consciousness individually and collectively, to connect to the Oneness within us all, and to serve each other and the planet.

2nd Sunday of every month, 10-11:30am, in Palo Alto

Look for the full announcement in the December newsletter!


Monthly Column in Sibyl Magazine!

Sibyl Magazine: for the Soul and Spirit of Woman is an online publication servicing over 24,000 women around the world.  I've been selected to write a monthly column, "Awakening Through the Seasons", for the 2015 publication year!  Look for my first article in the January issue - check out Sibyl Magazine on their Facebook Page.


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Upeksha - Even-Mindedness

by Rev. Connie L. Habash

This article is the fourth of a four-part series on Chapter 1, Verse 33 of the Yoga Sutras of Patanjali

Everyone has bad days. In fact, we’ve probably been through some periods of time in our lives where we weren’t at our best. We’ve made mistakes. We’ve hurt others’ feelings. We’ve said and done inappropriate things.

It’s hard when we know we’ve made a mistake; we might label ourselves as “bad”. We feel guilty, remorseful, or maybe we just try to put it out of our mind, pretending it never happened. It feels threatening to our sense of self to consider we may have done something that harmed another being.

However, when someone else is the culprit – especially if we see it as a serious offense – it’s rare that we even consider how they feel. We jump right to judgment, outrage, righteousness. We’re ready to condemn them, on the spot, as bad, evil, the enemy.

No matter how you slice it, our reactions to those who have done “wrong”, who are “bad” or harmful, disturb us. It agitates the mind and sets us off balance. Hence, why Patanjali, the father of yoga philosophy, instructed us on how to deal with this in his Yoga Sutras.

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Event Calendar

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Awakening Self Radio Show Archives

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Spiritual Quotes

"Give thanks for unknown blessings already on their way."

~ Native American Proverb


"It is not how much you do, but how much love you put into the doing that matters."  ~ Mother Teresa


"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be." ~ Lao Tzu



Rev. Connie L. Habash, MA, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Yoga and Meditation Teacher

Interfaith Minister - Spiritual Mentorship

Menlo Park, CA